Jake’s newest addiction is himself.
He has recently discovered that he can see his reflection in some objects. And he loves it!
His favorites right now are the mirror in our bedroom, the little drain-thingy in the bathtub (I have no idea what the proper terminology is for it!), and the oven door.
Probably because of all the time that Jake is spending in front of a mirror or other reflective surface, the phrase “smoke and mirrors” popped into my head, and has been rolling around in there for a few days now. I looked up what it actually means, and what I found was interesting. Apparently “smoke and mirrors” is a metaphor for “a deceptive, fraudulent, or insubstantial explanation or description“. (yep, I did it…this came from wikipedia)
This made me think. A lot. And I have come to this conclusion…
When Jake was born, the information that we were bombarded with was smoke and mirrors.
We got an insane amount of medical information, couched in unfamiliar medical jargon and terminology.
We got the laundry list of health problems to watch out for ~ all the things that could go wrong.
We got the wait-and-see explanation of how to judge the severity of developmental delays.
We got some outdated information, such as the stereotypes of “he’ll be happy” or “he’ll love music”.
The reason I feel that this was “smoke and mirrors” is this: all of this information, while useful and helpful (for the most part), was an insubstantial explanation or description. I’m not saying it wasn’t needed. I’m not saying it wasn’t true (okay, some of it wasn’t true…but most of it was!). I’m simply saying that it could never do justice to who Jake is. It was only part of the picture. It was lacking. It was insubstantial.
Most of the information we received after we learned of Jake’s diagnosis was helpful. Was needed. Was good. But it was insubstantial, lacking strength. It did not take into account personality, individuality, character, or in other words, the essence of what makes Jake who he is.
Thankfully, Jake’s newest addiction to mirrors has caused me to reflect (a little pun intended!). And who knows, maybe someday I’ll be able to give someone else a more substantial description than the one given me. In the meantime, we will have fun with mirrors!